Prepare for a rant.

19 Aug


SO angry right now. What actually possesses people to create or think this sort of thing?! I have a blog on Tumblr (some of you might have heard of it), just a general blog on my interests etc, and I am so fed up of seeing this come up on my dashboard. There are no words quite clear enough to describe just how plain rude and disgusting this behaviour is.

Many things are going through my mind right now after seeing this countless times, and in all honesty, I just want to explode with anger. For one, these ‘people’ obviously have no insight into what it is like to have a relative or somebody they care about suffer and not be able to help, or even suffer from anything themselves. How narrow minded can people actually be? It totally baffles me the levels some people will stoop to. Utter idiots, in fact, that term isn’t anywhere near strong enough, but I’ll leave that one to your imagination.

One person wondered why I cared about this sort of thing. Truth is, of course I care! I have a stoma and know many people with stomas, or who need stomas/have had stomas. The LAST thing people need to see before surgery or at any stage in their recovery is something like this. It is unnecessary and totally uncalled for. No, stomas aren’t the prettiest things to look at, I admit that, but I have seen worse things to look at. Who cares if they aren’t pretty or whatever word you want to use, seriously? Do you seriously expect that something that comes out your body to excrete waste is going to be covered in glitter, multicoloured and aesthetically pleasing?! Oh, come on, please! What angers me is when people totally refuse to understand the concept of stomas or that they actually save lives and help people…They are that shallow that they make a judgement on how something looks, just because it’s a bit different and something you might have not seen before? Do people wear their stomas out for everyone to see their waste coming out?! No, I think you’ll find that’s what stoma bags are for, if people actually had the decency to even try and understand and see over their own love for themselves, ignorance and overly-magnificent egos, and not magnificent in the positive sense. People act as if we ask for this sort of ignorance and cruel comments.

Not highlighting any subjects specifically, but in today’s society, if other subjects that are a bit risky or different were discriminated against, nobody would even allow for that to happen and they’d be made to never forget the fact that they said what they said, and in some cases, even imprisonment. I don’t think anybody should be discriminated against, just because they are different. We live in a society that is multi-cultural, multi-faith, has a wide range of backgrounds that people come from, different sexualities, different interests…Really, people are still going to be so rude? This is one of the reasons I do this blog, for Ostomy Awareness, because there needs to be way more awareness about stomas and Inflammatory Bowel Disease. It is amazing how many people I talk to who have, or know people, with stomas and/or Inflammatory Bowel Disease, yet the awareness is miniscule compared to other matters. The same goes with a lot of other illnesses that people don’t even try to understand because of the lack of support and awareness.

Even after my rant, I will say one thing, and that is that stoma or not, illness or not, with everybody’s individual differences, we should be allowed to live a life without unnecessary, cruel discrimination. The worse thing is, is that our society is like this now, and to be honest, I dread what it will turn into for generations to come if this carries on. We shouldn’t have to feel disgusted at ourselves for having a stoma, in many cases that saved our lives. We should feel proud.

Ostomism, not Pessimism™ 🙂

Oh, and Karma will probably come back round… 🙂

9 Responses to “Prepare for a rant.”

  1. Daniel August 19, 2012 at 5:55 pm #

    Amy, can understand how you feel. But I would have to admit before Crohns I may myself of never really understand. People never understand illness, the problems people have, the reality nor the fact life doesn’t suddenly end when you get ill. People don’t understand things aren’t simply black and white. Then Blam they get ill and suddenly they are in the same boat. Maybe they will deal with it like many of us have, where it was a struggle at first but we dealt with it, or maybe they will be the worse “Why me?” people you will ever meet – who knows. Knowing that I myself am not far away from probably needing a stoma, I was given a year tops in 2011, yet here I am carrying on at this time, I have met people with stoma’s – even dated some. They don’t bother me like I expected they might. Some of it is just the person we are, some of it is simply ignorance. Sadly it may take personal or family illness for them to really understand.

  2. Michael Wood August 20, 2012 at 9:34 am #

    Agree 100%. I picked that up last week and left a message on their site telling them why they are stupid. There is a huge difference between free speech and hurtful stupidity. Of course very tiny children might shout “Bottom” at someone and dissolve in fits of goggles – that’s OK these retards are adults, supposedly.

  3. sdempster August 20, 2012 at 4:57 pm #

    Sadly, this is yet more proof that the world will never have a shortage of idiots. Ignorance is not bliss. The poor, misguided wretch making a ‘so called’ joke about something which they so obviously do not understand, is contemptible on every conceivable level. Your rant is 1000% justified and I agree with you completely. I also confess that I can only feel pity for this individual as he/she simply lacks any sense of compassion, maturity, grace or kindness. That – as you have rightly said – will be a bitch when Karma comes calling.

    • staceystoma August 22, 2012 at 1:12 am #

      Thank you. Oh, Karma will come along!

  4. iamfabx August 20, 2012 at 10:22 pm #

    Hope your okay honey, your a beautiful girl with LIFE, don’t let anything get you down and keep that lovely head up!

    • staceystoma August 22, 2012 at 1:13 am #

      Ah thank you lovely! I am great! 🙂 Just got very annoyed! x

      • iamfabx August 22, 2012 at 10:09 pm #

        Of course, I wouldn’t blame you! x

  5. allthatiwantisaworkingtummy September 24, 2012 at 12:46 pm #

    Reason why I am scared to go completely public about my operation is the disgusting response that uneducated people have. I admit I was once one of them until I researched my condition and treatments and fully came to terms with it.I have only confided in non-judgemental people as a safety barrier. But my defence to anyone who took the rip This is a life saving operation and I’d rather be with a stoma then to have died!!! I had a subtotal colectomy because my colitis was “horrendous” according to my surgeon.

  6. J. Arthur January 14, 2013 at 2:00 am #

    Of course about a week after I found out my mother would need a stoma because her COPD had become so bad and only 20 percent of her lungs were functioning. She would need to be put on a ventilator I see this little ‘meme’. It seems everyone who has commented has an abdominal stoma, but I am sure we can share in some empathy. Of course I was scared of what would happen to my mother (in September 2012), but I had given no prior thought as to what it would look like. I must say, for the throat stomas this made it far worse than it came it be. I see it daily. For an eight hour period there is no one but me to suction out the stoma or else she drowns, basically. My sister cannot do it, not because she has developmental problems, but just because she can not cause her mother to heave like one does during a suction.

    I’m sorry, I know this seems to be a primarily abdominal stoma blog, but support is support. My mom finally got to come home on the 23rd of December of this past year (2012). And though my first suctions performed outside of a hospital were difficult, I have to remind myself what it might be like to be her–because when she needs the most help…she can’t talk, and I know she realize she can’t talk, but she will try and gesture complex notions and get frustrated when I don’t understand. And I know she’s grateful, there has just not been a lot of ‘thank you’s or ‘good job’s heard lately, and not those are requried evertime, or at all. It’s just those aspects I hope she understands–I’m 32 year old, intelligent, relatively decent looking young man, and I cannot leave my own home during ‘shifts’. And mainstream society sees me as living with off of my mother–like another college grad who leaves with their parents because they are afraid to start life.

    That last bit sounded rather selfish. But all I mean to say is, “It’s nice to feel I am not alone, even though I am not the one with the stoma.


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